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One question I hate most in life is : " Fan, did you gain weight?". How they ask me can be varied, but the point is still the same. Sometimes, it’s even worse. Instead of asking questions, they make a statement. ‘ You look bigger’. Period.
At first, I hated those people. Who wouldn’t anyway?
I usually became defensive and tried to say something rude, just to get back at them. Like, ‘That’s none of your business!’ or ‘Yeah, you dint look too good yourself, have you been ill?’ or ‘You look FAT too!’.
But now, I just feel sorry for them. I think of them as a ‘not-oh-so-intelligent-people’.
Why?
*First reason is: Because of the way they focus their mind on something that is TOTALLY UNIMPORTANT. I mean, why would they care if I did gain 5 kilos for example.
*Second reason is: Because they couldn’t find something more interesting to talk about. What’s the matter with you people? Be creative.. Be smart… Talk about the world economy! Talk about the war in Iraq! Talk about a good book! Talk about fashion! Talk about ‘perceraian gusti randa’!… Pick a topic! Read books and news papers! BROADEN YOUR VIEW!!!!
*Third reason is: They are not sensitive enough to understand that making comment about someone’s weight is not appropriate (unless the weight is down, instead of up). That’s why, mostly the people who asked me this were those ‘JOMBLO’ people (after many years of research, I’m finally able to declare my theory.. :p!). Why Jomblo? Because, who wants to be a partner from someone who doesn’t know how to treat people? I recommend them to start joining ‘John Robert Powers’ or something… To shape up their personality!
So next time you see me (or others)… Please bring up a better subject so I (or they) wont think of you as one of the categories up there. If you cant find one.. then just simply ask ‘Apa kabar?’ from your heart. It’ll show that you care. And everyone will appreciate your gesture. But better yet… If you see me.. ask me ‘Did you LOSE your weight?’.
That will make my day!
